Note: If you need to leave this page quickly, click on escape.
Caution! Computer and Internet activity can be monitored. If you are being abused or stalked it may be safer for you to use a computer a perpetrator does not have access to (e.g., Open Access Lab). If you need to leave this page quickly, click on escape near the top and bottom right of this page and you will be redirected to Google.com. For more information call the National Domestic Violence Hotline (NDVH) at (800) 799-SAFE (7233), (800) 787-3224 (TTY); or visit the NDVH or CyberAngels online on a safer computer.
Tips for Stopping the Violence
- Acknowledge that no one deserves to be abused and don’t do anything that violates another person.
- Take responsibility for your actions. If you are abusing your partner, children, or others, get assistance to stop your abusive behavior.
- Never use force, threats, alcohol and other drugs, or other illegal ways to get sex. Don’t make assumptions – always get permission.
- Remember ‘no’ means NO! Be aware of other ways a person may use to indicate you don’t have consent to do what you're doing (e.g., pulling away from you).
- Don’t mistake submission for consent.
- Avoid alcohol and other drugs.
- Discuss sexual and other violence with friends. Take a stand against violence and speak out against it.
- Report incidents of violence to law enforcement and campus authorities.
- Additional tips on what you can do to stop your abusive behavior are available through Break the Cycle.
Where to Go for Help to Stop the Violence
Individual and group counseling for male and female abusers is available throughout the state. For help or to find programs near you call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at (800) 799-SAFE (7233) or TTY (800) 787-3223. Help is also available through the National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline at (866) 331-9474 or TTY (866)331-8453 (all calls or chats are anonymous and confidential).
Individuals who are court-ordered to complete a 52-week batterers' intervention program should verify that the program they participate in meets their legal requirements. Programs available in the Los Angeles area can be found through the County of Los Angeles Probation Department.